On paper, the notion that people should learn to complete tasks for some idealistic purpose such as commitments or obligations seems fine, but in practice, it has very little significance in a child’s life, because as a technique, it simply does not work.
There are, however, pragmatic steps you can take to encourage your kids to complete their responsibilities.
One of the most typical family disagreements is how to get youngsters to complete chores. We yell trying to find out why they haven’t completed a task and they respond saying it will be done later or they may even choose to ignore it.
However, the same reason that kids dislike doing chores is the same reason that adults dislike doing them: housework is often monotonous. And most kids lack the maturity to see that if they work fast and complete their jobs, they will be adequately compensated by being able to return to their favorite activities.
Rather, they whine, postpone, and drag their feet to avoid doing a few minutes of pretty simple labor. Here are some practical actions you may take if you feel like you’re continuously yapping your kids to do their domestic tasks.
Put an End to Your Child’s Diversional Activity
If your youngster isn’t doing his tasks, simply put an end to whatever is causing him to be distracted. This almost certainly indicates that the devices are switched off and they don’t come back on until the chores have been completed.
Then discuss with him briefly, inquiring as to what he believes is going on and what is preventing him from completing his allotted chores. Once that is done, find out what his plans are and encourage him to finish the assignment so he may go on to something else.
It is significantly more successful to appeal to the self-interests of kids as against presenting the vague concept of responsibility or obligation.
Set A Time Frame To Get Chores Done
Setting time limitations on chores is an excellent method to get your youngster to perform them. And if the time lapses and the task has not been done, ensure enforcement of consequences such as spending less time with electronics.
The benefit of this technique is that you don’t have to whine and complain as much. Instead, you’re simply keeping track of time. You may even set an alarm or you could even go a step forward by rewarding her, which makes her more interested and stimulated as a result.
She will gain something if she completes her chore, even though she does not lose anything if she does not. This is so because it is much more motivating and less coercive and this type of compensatory system is always preferential to one in which the child loses things. Doing this means you’re giving your child an excellent opportunity to do better.
Incorporate The Use Of A Stipend
If parents can afford it, introducing a monthly stipend payment for their kids is a good idea and you could tie their stipend to the completion of their tasks.
If your child needs to be reminded to accomplish his tasks more than once, a portion of his allowance will be deducted.
Organize Your Chores Using A Structural System
When it comes to accomplishing domestic activities, having a plan is a key, which helps in completing duties at specific times.
Throughout the academic year, nighttime is usually the greatest time for housework because completing tasks in the morning adds to the pressure and stress of getting to school on time. However, in the summer, it is best to perform chores first thing in the morning to get them out of the way before the day begins.
Also, set a standard that your kid’s bedding must be made, his clothes must be in the hamper, and his room must be neat before playing video games or using devices. In this sense, he’s beginning to understand that his actions have consequences.
Similarly, you wouldn’t want to take your youngster away from something fun to do something tedious. Alternatively, you need to get them to work through the tedious and dull tasks so that they can go on to something more fascinating.
At the end of the day, it shouldn’t be a matter of choosing between thrill and drudgery. Boredom or work should be the option. Kids must realize that they will not be able to have fun until their duties are completed. There will be no devices or going out with friends until the chores have been completed. Boredom must be their direct replacement for doing their responsibilities.
With this kind of framework in place, most kids will eventually prefer to finish their duties before moving on to other activities.
Do Not Use Chores As A Punitive Measure
Use work as a reward rather than a penalty. When a kid behaves badly or does something wrong, don’t punish them by making them do the dishes. You want your youngster to understand that doing a chore is an essential responsibility that must be fulfilled regardless of the circumstances.
When your child does something wrong to another sibling, then you can use chores as a punishment, by way of doing that person’s task for them as a way of making amends or putting things right.
Make Use Of An Incentive Scheme
Incorporate a reward system with your kids’ chores if you want them to take responsibility for them. Put each child’s name on a chart, along with their tasks, and award a green check if they do their chores promptly and correctly.
Give a prize after collecting five checkmarks, which could be going to bed an hour later or one night to spend more time watching television.
In conclusion, once you permit the situation to flourish, asking your child to complete responsibilities becomes a struggle. You’ll be stuck with continuous complaining mode if you don’t terminate the struggle now.
And, of course, complaining is ineffective, instead of nagging, use the strategies above to finally put an end to the chore war.