Suicidal thoughts can arise when a person is in a deep state of hopelessness. Reports lead us to believe that they appear suddenly, as if they had a life of their own, and remain in our minds until we find a way to expel them.
In most cases, the existence of this type of thinking is only noticed when they become more recurrent. In others, the person sees them as normal, as they have lived with it for a long time.
The appearance of suicidal thoughts is a strong indication that we need to seek help because something is wrong in our life. Its origin, however, is difficult to identify. These thoughts can be the result of several different circumstances, so the treatment is complex and multifaceted.
Fortunately, regardless of the situation, it is possible to fight them and prevent them.
Features of Suicidal Thoughts
When we are struggling, we are automatically more likely to give in to negative thoughts. The way we think has a great influence on us. We only notice the problems and constantly worry about the catastrophic scenario we create in our minds.
Over time, these thoughts become natural. Every day, we dedicate more and more time to contemplating them, especially when something bad happens in our lives. We even take some comfort in thinking negatively.
Due to this non-conformity with life and, possibly, impotence to change it, the desire to die arises. Thus, thoughts like “life is not worth living” or “there is nothing I can do to change it”, as well as plans to take one’s life manifest. Eventually, this self-destructive behavior can lead to suicide.
However, while there is a desire to die, there is also a desire to live according to your expectations. It can be said, then, that suicidal thoughts idealize an escape and not necessarily death.
How to Fight Suicidal Thoughts?
Once you’ve identified the source of your unhappiness, you can begin to notice suicidal thoughts and fight them.
1. Admit you might have a problem
Your thoughts may reflect an as-yet-unidentified mental disorder. Many people fail to understand their feelings and associate them with madness.
Psychological disorders are diseases that can be treated like any other. Denying them causes even more misery for those who have them.
If you broke your foot, you go to the hospital and see a doctor, right? It is the same for psychological illnesses. The right thing is, to be honest with yourself.
2. Accept that there is a solution to your problem
Immersed in our problems, we cannot find or believe that there are solutions to them. We even turn away any possible help from the people we love.
This belief that no one can help will get you nowhere. Regardless of the circumstances, it is possible to find another way. Fight hopelessness with the desire to change and take action to have the life you want.
3. Don’t get carried away by thoughts
People with self-destructive behavior have a staunch belief in their suicidal thoughts. They invent scenarios and mistaken truths that nobody cares about.
However, we cannot let them dominate our lives. For that, you must confront them as if you were confronting an enemy.
As much as the voice in our mind repeatedly says “life is not worth it”, don’t believe it. Respond with “it’s worth it because I’m a wonderful person and I will do wonderful things for myself and others.”
You are in control of your thoughts, which do not always match reality.
Remember that negative thoughts can, at any time, be replaced by positive ones. No one but ourselves can stop this from happening.
4. Leave fear and shame aside
We hide when we are down for numerous reasons. We don’t want to attract attention, worry the family, or be seen as “weak” and “incapable”.
We look at the lives of the people around us and everything seems perfect, so we believe that we should pretend that everything is fine and insist on following the same pattern.
The truth is that everyone is or has been dissatisfied with some aspect of life. Although not openly shared, this experience is very common.
Don’t be ashamed to admit that you are also human and need help. Seeking alternatives to feel better is not a weakness.
If you don’t feel comfortable, there’s no need to share the details of your thoughts. But try to overcome shame or fear, and don’t let them stop you from seeking help.
5. Cultivate good habits
When you feel hopeless, look for the good in your life. Simple things like having a bed to sleep in or food to eat.
Small details that we miss amid the stress of daily life. Instead of listening to self-destructive thoughts, be more optimistic and be grateful for everything you have.
Other positive habits that you can gradually introduce into your life are:
- Routine exercise — if you don’t like physical activity, try walking for 30 minutes;
- Write down all of your accomplishments and constantly remind yourself of them —this may sound arrogant, but it’s always good to be aware of your ability. Include even small victories.
- Sleep earlier;
- Get out of the house —no matter where or with whom, just set aside time in your week to leave the comfort of home. Preferably, do something you enjoy and let your mind rest for a few minutes;
- Donate your time to help someone — you can volunteer at a local NGO or institution, or online. Helping others is a great way to get in touch with other life stories and expand our horizons. Volunteering also gives us purpose, especially when we are temporarily unemployed or out of activities.
- Work on your self-esteem— that’s right. High self-esteem is the result of constant exercise. List your qualities. Remember the compliments already given to you. If you have traits that you don’t like, don’t be shy and change them.
Each new habit should be integrated into your life at a pace that is comfortable for you. If you don’t like the suggestions, look for activities that give you pleasure.
This point intends to find something that will help you to alleviate the negativity.
6. Share your problems
Contrary to what is used to thinking, keeping what we feel inside us is harmful. We try to appear strong to others and forget to take care of ourselves.
Venting with trusted people not only brings a positive feeling but also helps us to see what was previously invisible to us.
Suicidal thoughts can make us feel that no one cares about us or that we are unloved. In our lives, however, there are dozens of people who can help us in times of sadness or despair.
This pessimistic interpretation is created by ourselves. People are rarely aware of how we feel. That is, we need to communicate with them somehow.
If you don’t feel comfortable opening up or don’t have anyone you trust around right now, you can turn to online counseling or support groups.
Actions such as Yellow September are also a good idea for those who need help, as they aim to help the search for help for this problem, in addition to raising awareness not only of you but also of those around you about the issue. of suicide.
If you wish, write down your feelings so you can understand them better as soon as something bothers you.